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Mad About You

Have you ever wondered why some women have the good fortune of finding good men who fall madly in love with them? Follow these simple steps and watch him become "Mad About You." 1. Realize that you can't make anyone do anything. He must first want and like you before he can fall madly in love with you. Remember, you don't want anyone who doesn't even want you.  2. Often it's said that a man likes to be with a woman who makes him feel happy. But I say, a man will fall madly in love with a woman that makes him feel good about himself. When a woman inspires a man to feel confident, self-assured, handsome, intelligent and kingly, she secures a place in his heart that no other woman can fill. Regardless of any other woman that comes into his life, or any lapse in time, he will always remember and often long for the woman that made him feel invincible. 3. A man loves a woman who can be her authentic self around him and others. Most women think that they have to change their personality to fit the man's tastes and desires. Au contraire! A man falls madly in love with a woman who is so confident and authentic that she knows that she's the prize and he's the hunter and that she doesn't have to change, acquiesce or pretend to be someone she's not. Note: A mature man innately knows the difference between a woman who possesses real confidence and a female who uses false confidence as a veil to hide her true pain and insecurites. 4. Allow a man to be his true authentic self. If he likes sports, let him have his sports. If he enjoys spending time with his friends, don't nag him about hanging out with his friends. If he prefers spending more time with his friends than with you, or more time watching sports than spending time with you, then he's not mad about you and, therefore, you don't want him anyway. Often a woman thinks that the tighter she holds on to her man or the more she whines, cries, nags or complains then the better chance she has at changing her man's undesirable behavior. Again, au contraire! The more you let go and allow your man to breathe, live his life and be his authentic self, the more he changes his own negative or undesirable behavior because he's become "Mad About You." 5. Lastly, women you must have a full life of your own. Your man cannot be your life. A man will fall madly in love with a woman who is full of life, love and joy. We are each responsible for our own happiness and our significant other should only complement our lives, not bear the burden of making our lives happy. Just as a good wine complements an already scrumptious meal, a good man should complement your already complete and joyful life.  Consider these tips while in your present or future relationship and I can assure, if he's a mature man looking for a good woman, he'll find himself Mad About You!

Loves Me, Loves Me Not

Some of us struggle in our daily relationships with our significant others for many different reasons. "He won't pay the bills on time," or "She doesn't want to have children." Some go through even worse struggles such as physical and mental abuse. Today is the day for us to step outside of ourselves and take a long hard look at our situation. If you were on the outside looking in you might have a different view of things. Would you advise a friend to stay in the type of situation that you find yourself in right now? The point is, stand up in your relationships, be heard, don't back down and most of all, know when to leave. We all need someone to love, but just as giving love is a fundamental need, so is receiving love. If you are not getting the love you need out of your relationship, leaving may not always be an option, but you can always sit down and discuss the problem with your significant other. Seek help from a professional if your relationship needs more help because no one wants to wonder if they "love me, love me not?"

The Bold and The Beautiful

There is no denying that we are Beautiful (if you know it, clap your hands).  But are we Bold?  As consumers are we bold enough to expect and insist on the best accommodations?  I submit that if you've ever allowed yourself to be placed in physically uncomfortable situations or declined invitations because you weren't sure of the accommodations--then you're not living BOLDLY.  The art of Boldness requires self-confidence.  Here are a few suggestions for living Boldly:  when dining out don't allow yourself to be seated in an uncomfortable booth when a table is available; when you'd rather stay home because you're unsure of the seating (venues such as movie or live theater), call ahead and ask if there are any size-accommodating seats available; when venues have turnstiles at the entrance, if you prefer, request to enter through a different entrance or the handicapped section.  These are but a few examples of living Boldly.  You may be pleasantly surprised at how accommodating many businesses can be.  Living a PhatLyfe means not ever allowing your size to limit or predict your enjoyment of it.  Be confident.  You're already Beautiful, now go out and live BOLDLY !

Euphoria

What's better than strawberry cheesecake, sleeping in late on Saturdays, or direct-deposit Fridays? GIVING. Giving is the single most euphoric activity you can participate in. There are many creative ways to give; find what works best for you. Here are a few of our favorites: find a single parent and be Santa for the kids this Christmas; volunteer to tutor or mentor a child; find a needy family and purchase their entire Thanksgiving meal; start a scholarship program for kids wanting to participate in sports or other activities but their parents can't afford the fees. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination. Giving is an ethereal experience, there's no better feeling--but direct-deposit Fridays run a close second.

Be the Perfect 10 Many of us are waiting to attain the ever-elusive "perfect size" before we live fully. "I'll go on that cruise after I've lost 50lbs." Don't waste another moment dwelling in the past (I use to be so much thinner) or fretting about the future (one day I vow to be high-school-skinny again). Rather, expend your energy in more positive ways like: enjoy a spa day; join a community club; or be a mentor. Remember, becoming the Perfect 10 has nothing to do with size!